Before Kimmel delves into the world of women and sex, he begins with the modern fantasy: porn. His main thesis for porn's purpose and exsistence is based on the idea that men, whether they are concious of it or not, are seeking revenge on women. As Kimmel sees it, having sex as frequent as possible and with as many women as possible is a mainstay of the Guy Code. As this is impossible, guys are trying to find a way to get even with girls who won't give in. He presents that the contradiction is in that the world is full of 'eye candy' with women who reinforce their looks to attract men, yet don't say yes to sex as easy or say yes all. Porn is an outlet to that frustration in which the world gives into desires. Too me, it's also a big 'Fuck you' to women who aren't giving into a man's sexual agenda, or in a deeper way who are hurting his self image (which is the thing that needs to examined). Looking deeper, which Kimmel touched on but didn't explain, is women's general disinterest towards pornography or ability to be turned on by naked men- which in turn says something about mens general misunderstandings about the complexities of sex and attraction. Sexual fantasy can be purely fantastical for those purposes, an intimate place is an easy place to express or act out fantasies. But when visited over and over again, sexual fantasy is misleading, distorting of sex and love, and demonstrates something one is missing in oneself. No one can be missing naked 17 year olds from themselves, but perhaps missing a healthy outlook on their own maturity or childhood. To me, porn takes us very far away from the human experience in one of the most human experiences possible.
Hooking up, as it may appear to be the way of sexual liberation, seems to be a more confining way of finding love, making love, and making all decisions based around sex and love. The way Kimmel describes the college culture's version of hooking up is completely lost in a loveless vat of alcohol, forgetting, and regretting.
Hooking up however, can also be seen for really what it is, an experience, where hopefully we are sober enough to understand what is happening. Whether we are useful with this experience or use it as an 'impressive' story is another thing however. Although Kimmel puts 'hooking up' predominately in guy world, I would say it's in the girl's world just as much. I know a lot of girls who really want to tack on the numbers of guys they've hooked up with, but I think its more for legitimizing feelings of personal power and choice rather than a ticket for bragging rights.
The statement these people are making about not wanting the work and hardships of having a relationship seems to be a cop out, an avoidance of something they don't know how to do. People are running around with their heads cut off trying to get somebody to get them off, when really falling in love is the best practice for marriage and such, not drunken humping in the night. Also, do we not know how to flirt gracefully and tactfully, for every meeting we make with a romantic other should not be covered in booze.
However much it be the friendmaker, alcohol is also the evil accomplice of rape, or predatory sex. Much like in guys consumption of porn, Kimmel outlines how rape is the ultimate and physical revenge, an extreme end to a means, of a sort of revenge towards women. In my childhood I remember my first idea of what rape meant. Although cloudy, I was almost certain it began with a kidnapping or abduction. In reality, rape is more cloudy and less criminal looking in it's exposition. This exposition often begins at parties, certainly with alcohol, and definetly a lot of confusion as to the boundaries of the situation. Where either member of the consenting party is actual consenting will be unclear when people are drunk as hell, but there is no doubt that within the code of guyland that coercion with girls is perfectly acceptable, if not formula. To imagine all the things Kimmel writes about to be actually true is hard, and extremely inexcusable.
